To Jim:

Dear Jim,


I understand how you felt for Shelley. I know how much you wanted to know what's inside her diary just to satisfy your curiosity. I know you felt disappointed because she didn't show you her diary but, this doesn't mean that she doesn't trust you anymore. It's just that each of us has this secret little world in ourselves where we secretly express our emotions to. Each of us needs privacy and that is also what Shelley wants in order to satisfy her emotional needs. You just have to understand her. Maybe she has her own certain reasons why she didn't want to expose her diary. Maybe she's just too shy to express her emotions to someone that she used her diary as her instrument for expressing her feelings and kept them there as a secret.


Don't let this kind problem be the reason to lose your relationship. You have to understand that she needs privacy, like you do. Also remember that in every relationship, there should be a balance of expressing your emotions. You know Jim, I have a boyfriend too and there are some things that i don't feel like sharing it to him. It's because I'm not too expressive for what I feel and there are things that i don't want him to know and things that he don't need to know. In a relationship, you don't have to tell everything you know or feel just to assure the trust you need for each other. There is a balance of emotional values. It just depends upon the members on how to maintain a healthy relationship.



- Dale