Interactional View

Dear unknown,


I know how you felt for your family. I could sometimes feel and experience the same way too but I think it's just normal for most of us teenagers. We just couldn't avoid these kind of problems because I think that most of the families commonly has this so-called dysfunctional relationship patterns. But these dysfunctional patterns can be solve by changing our way of communication into a better one. I suggest you and your family should do this.

Don't hate your family for what they have done or shown to you, especially your parents. They are just doing their best to take good care of and provide your special needs. It is only normal for your mother to worry about you. You can't blame them for doing it so, you should listen and obey to your parents. They are only doing and saying those things to you because, like every other parents do, they only want you to have a good and healthy life. They also want you to be a good and responsible person.

In the interactional view theory, Watzlawick's third axiom states that "Communication = content + relationship". According to Watzlawick, this meant that content is what is said, and relationship is how it is said. I think your family's problem is on how the communication is said to each other.

I suggest you talk to your parents in a respectful way. Don't be automatically defensive and angry when you respond to your parents. Talk in a nicely way so that your parents wouldn't scold you or respond in a negative tone of voice. Also talk to your sister. I think she's just a little bit jealous on you because of how your parents treat. She might think that your parents love you more than her so tell her that it isn't true.


-Dale